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    5 Tips for Letting Go and Get pictures of your kids that you'll love!

    May 23, 2016 by Ashley Mayes 16 Comments

    Time doesn't stop, kids grow, people change, families change. I'm a huge advocate of documenting life as it is right now. Sometimes, or lots of times, life is messy and crazy. If you have multiple kids or have a big family - I'm sure this is even more true for you. But, I want to remember this time. I don't want to forget the little things.

    Ninety percent of the time, when I think to take pictures of my son or my family, I think about it in the moment; when we're all a little more dressed up on Easter Sunday; when we're at the park on a nice day. In these moments, I'm snapping shots with whatever I've got available (my phone) and in a bit of a hurry to get the shot before the moment is gone. In these moments, I tend to forget about my experience as a photographer. Greyson's not on his best behavior. He just wants to get out of the nice clothes and back to playing. I'm not at my best. I'm struggling to win little battles and wondering why he never listens. The last thing on my mind is, "Ashley, let go and enjoy the moment."

    The little moments in life are happening all around you and those are the moments that you as a Mom, Dad, Grandparent, Aunt, Uncle, friend... those are the moments that you need to cherish and preserve. So, here are 5 Tips for Letting Go and Get pictures of your kids that you'll love and cherishing the moment and, as a bonus, how to shoot better portraits while doing it.

    Tip #1 : Say Yes to Easy Requests

    Thursday was Greyson's last day of Kindergarten. I knew that I wanted to take a few photos of him before school that morning. I had in my mind that I would print a "last day of school" printable and take a few for that. I never got around to printing something out though, so I let it go. We had five minutes before carpool, so I grabbed the camera I use for work and we headed to our front yard.

    He asked if he could take a picture with the card he made for his teacher.

    YES

    Something about grabbing the camera I use for work, snapped me out of my normal parenting mode. Instead of worrying about the five minutes we had available, I let go and focused on how to make him smile.

    Get pictures of your kids that you'll love with these tips!

    Do I need a picture of the card for his teacher? Nope. Is he proud of it? Yes. Most importantly, telling him yes let him know we're in it together. We're just having fun together. No work necessary.

    "Mommy, let me pose you." Say yes.

    Make pictures fun for your kids and get the pictures you really want!

    Small tip here: If you are letting your kiddo pose you, put them on a higher surface. I usually always crouch or sit so he is shooting down on me. It's easier for him and I don't end up having a huge double chin.

    *Not shown, "Mommy, act like a flying ninja." I said yes. Remember, the key is to photograph the moment as it happens.

    Make pictures fun for your kids and get the pictures you really want!

    At a certain age - usually 4+, kids can be awkward with the camera.  The smiles are forced, the eyes are blank and they just aren't interested. It's your job to make it fun. Whatever you can do - make it fun.

    Tip #2 : Make It Fun

    For the card pictures, I said yes to the card and holding it over his face but then I made it fun by saying, "ok drop the card and try to cover your face with the card before I get a picture of you!"

    This works for his age. The trick here is to find something that is age appropriate that works. I didn't end up getting a photo here that I love, but I did make him smile. I made him laugh and he made me laugh and we both let go a little more.

    Tip #3 : Channel the Energy

    Kids (especially boys) are high energy, especially at this age. The key here is to not get upset by it. Make it work for your kiddo. For example, Greyson is really into being a ninja or spy. So, immediately after he put the card down, I said "Act like a ninja and show me your best ninja moves."

    Am I going to frame a large picture of him looking like a ninja? Probably not, but maybe. BUT, am I documenting him and what he loves right at this moment in time? YES. Am I creating fun experience as opposed to cranking at him for not smiling correctly? Yes. This is the key.

    Get pictures of your kids that you'll love with these tips!

    Will you get lots of photos like this?

    Make pictures fun for your kids and get the pictures you really want!

    Yes! You won't love them all and that's ok. But the beauty of modern cameras is that you can shoot and shoot and maybe one ninja pose out of 20 will be a keeper.

    Tip #4 : Break Time or Pause

    For younger kids, you can usually make a game out of "breaktime" or "pause". Greyson is just about out of that phase. With him (remember he's six), within the ninja moves, I can get him to pause just by saying "ok, act normal". Here's an example of that:

    Make pictures fun for your kids and get the pictures you really want!

    Taking a break, whether for a minute or second, is helpful because kids tend to get so caught up in going, doing, and having fun that they forget how to let go and be calm. I guess we adults have the same trouble sometimes as well.

    Tip #5: Give Them Freedom and Let Go of Perfection

    After I've gotten a few pictures, I just like to give him freedom. I really tell him, "now do whatever you want." Dance, show me spy moves, whatever. With girls, you can ask them how they want to look or pose. In my experience, most girls really like this.

    Make pictures fun for your kids and get the pictures you really want!

    Make pictures fun for your kids and get the pictures you really want!

    I'm freezing movement in these photos. He's being his usual rambunctious self and that's ok!

    You don't want your kid to hate photos. In reality, they probably won't love them, but as long as they don't hate them, it's ok. Just remember, that you are cherishing the moment and you are a player within that moment. Make that moment something to cherish. Let the "picture-perfect" photo go.

    Make pictures fun for your kids and get the pictures you really want!

    *Bonus tip:

    Don't forget to try to be in a few photos. I set my camera on our front porch with a timer for this one. It's not perfect, but it's the moment... which is what a picture should be about.

    Make pictures fun for your kids and get the pictures you really want!

    Get photos that you'll love with these real-life tips!

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    1. cassie @ primitive & proper

      May 23, 2016 at 6:04 am

      aaaaw. these are adorable and what a good mama you are!

      Reply
      • Ashley Mayes

        June 01, 2016 at 7:20 am

        Thanks Cassie!

        Reply
    2. Julia@Cuckoo4Design

      May 23, 2016 at 7:44 am

      Love them and such great tips!

      Reply
      • Ashley Mayes

        June 01, 2016 at 7:20 am

        Thanks Julia! I'd rather not fight with him about getting "the one."

        Reply
    3. Charlotte W

      May 23, 2016 at 9:35 am

      Aw, love this. And I probably needed this before Kindergarten Graduation, because that did not go well 😉
      G looks so big! When did our kids get so grown up?!?!

      Reply
      • Ashley Mayes

        June 01, 2016 at 7:20 am

        I don't know! They are getting so old!

        Reply
    4. Carol @ CAD INTERIORS

      May 23, 2016 at 2:38 pm

      LOVE this! Beautiful reminder to capture the moments, any moment whether "perfectly styled" or not. I have 2 boys (7 & 11), and taking photos of them have been a challenge lately. They don't want to take pics. So, most are candid and in-action, but I'm still trying to capture them regardless of how imperfect the photos turn out. 🙂 They grow too fast.

      Reply
      • Ashley Mayes

        June 01, 2016 at 7:21 am

        Yes, they do!

        Reply
    5. Andrew

      June 13, 2016 at 1:15 am

      Discipline takes a lot of consistency and sticking to your guns. A lot of parents don't have the patience for it. The first few times we started time out I had to put my son back into time out for an hour and a half. It's gotten better. Now he does as I ask just by my counting to 5 (or just doing it upon a simple request). But I had to put in the work to get there and every once in awhile I still have to have a match of wills to discipline my kid.

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    6. Jessica

      June 13, 2016 at 11:20 am

      Y'all are so cute and he is definitely your TWIN! Great tips too, I love taking still-lives of my kids. I normally take it and edit it in b&W. I love how clear your photos came out, that is something I need to work on.

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      • Ashley Mayes

        June 15, 2016 at 2:55 pm

        Thanks Jessica! I love b/w but hardly ever edit in it. Weird, right?!

        Reply
    7. Julie

      November 18, 2016 at 7:55 am

      What beautiful photos and great tips. What really shines through here is how much you both enjoy spending a little time together (seems like you work hard on that and it pays off)

      Reply
      • Ashley Mayes

        November 28, 2016 at 9:46 am

        Thanks Julie! He's a keeper for sure.

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    8. Sharon@bluewillowhouse

      November 19, 2016 at 10:58 am

      Great tips for photographing kids. I can't wait to try them photographing my grandkids. Thank you for sharing at the Snickerdoodle Create~Bake~Make link party!

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      • Ashley Mayes

        November 28, 2016 at 9:48 am

        Yay! Thanks Sharon!

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